appendix a)
[jvs84.20/rob]
Date: Wed, 12 May 1999 11:23:34 +1000
From: Rob <email>
Subject: Re: BS METER
Terry S- wrote:
>(sigh)
>So, how do we know what the other guy is feeling? (If he doesn't
flat-out tell us. Or if he does and we don't believe him.) Or what his
intention is? Here in textworld.
I've been a little quiet lately - it's just the availability of
emotional energy. I've been enjoying a glorious revolutionary struggle
at work.
A staff representative on the University Council sent a global email to
all staff reporting on the April Council meeting. His tone was
disrespectful to senior management - deliciously so. And he passed on
information management would rather have not had quite so publicly
disseminated. Another staff member
replied to him, making further disrespectful references to a manager -
unfortunately and unintentionally, her reply went global. She
apologised to the manager, he demanded she put the apology on global
email, and she did.
Then management, saying that they were acting on legal advice, withdrew
all email facilities from both staff. No due process, no chance to
defend themselves, no-one saw this very suss legal advice. From where I
sat, a narcissistically-wounded management lashing out to punish, and
if they got away with punishment without process, a very intimidatory
precedent being set.
The union got involved, of course, but then individual staff started to
use the global email to comment on management handling of the case,
which was so inept that it was indefensible. So they didn't defend it,
they just refused to back down. The story ran on the national radio
network, in the major daily paper, a question was asked in State
Parliament, and still the dingalings wouldn't back down. Nor would they
defend themselves, so only one story was running in the media.
Staff were having an absolute ball, taking free swipes at an already
very unpopular management group. Then a compromise was offered by
management, the union supported it, but the members told the union we
wouldn't have a bar of it, would sooner strike, and three days later
management caved in completely.
Now that's what I call a bloody good fight. We had a clear
understanding of the issues (intimidation, punishment without due
process), they had a different one (administrative matter only, acting
on legal advice), and we won.
Ter/Stan don't convey that to me. They seem angry - both of them - but
I don't get the "my teeth in his jugular" vibe. In fact, the mere
presence of in interest in how the other is feeling, or how it could be
deduced, says this is no fight. We didn't give a shit how management
felt, just wanted to force them to retreat. Here, I get some sense of
disappointment that people who have been reading each other for so long
can still feel so little understood/accepted. My projection, hey?
These are the moments when a Mars turns up, or a Robin or Craig,
telling people how they ought to talk to each other. Or a Frank pedals
by, farting disdainfully with a smirk on his face, to attract a shower
of stones from the apes at the bus stop. Whatever. And the difficult
sorting process of what we think, what we feel, what we understand of
each other, is again laid aside for a glorious battle with the stupid,
arrogant scapegoat. (Sorry, Frank. Projecting again. You of all people
will understand.)
So, ter, I'm guessing that you feel more wounded than angry about
Stan's response to you. Is that how it is, or is it no business of
mine?
Rob
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